Emerging Adulthood

via xkcd

This fascinating article was published recently in the New York Times. It discusses a breakthrough in developmental psychology; the possibility of a new life stage. This life stage has been coined by Jeffrey J. Arnett as"emerging adulthood" and is said to take place during the 20 somethings.

The article quotes Jeffrey J. Arnett, a professor of Clark University and leader in the movement acknowledging 20 somethings as a new life stage.
In the article Arnett says, [during emerging adulthood] "young men and women are more self-focused than at any other time of life, less certain about the future and yet also more optimistic, no matter what their economic background. This is where the “sense of possibilities” comes in, he says; they have not yet tempered their ideal­istic visions of what awaits. “The dreary, dead-end jobs, the bitter divorces, the disappointing and disrespectful children . . . none of them imagine that this is what the future holds for them,”

According to Arnett there are also many cultural implications that have played into emerging adulthood; " the need for more education to survive in an information-based economy; fewer entry-level jobs even after all that schooling; young people feeling less rush to marry because of the general acceptance of premarital sex, cohabitation and birth control; and young women feeling less rush to have babies given their wide range of career options and their access to assisted reproductive technology if they delay pregnancy beyond their most fertile years," says Arnett.

The article argues that if the life stage of "emerging adulthood" was accepted it could lead to as major of societal changes as the acceptance of adolescence in 1904. Such changes included the institution of child labor laws, increase of available education, and general provision and support for a life stage seen as critical in developing a healthy and adept adult mind.
Supporting the push for acknowledgment of emerging adulthood as a new life stage are the recent discovery's found surrounding the biological maturation of the brain. A longitudinal study of brain development sponsored by the National Institute of Mental Health found that the brain does not fully develop until at least the age of 25 yrs. The article also provides many more insights into the brains of emerging adulthood all focusing on the incredible shaping and molding that occurs during this time of life.


Of all that was said for emerging adulthood in the NY times article I found the discussion on challenges of the life stage the most resonating. Living in a city of emerging adults I hear & feel myself the angst that comes with being in a place of possibilities.

This exerpt from the NY times article describes it well;
"“It’s somewhat terrifying,” writes a 25-year-old named Jennifer, “to think about all the things I’m supposed to be doing in order to ‘get somewhere’ successful: ‘Follow your passions, live your dreams, take risks, network with the right people, find mentors, be financially responsible, volunteer, work, think about or go to grad school, fall in love and maintain personal well-being, mental health and nutrition.’ When is there time to just be and enjoy?” Adds a 24-year-old from Virginia: “There is pressure to make decisions that will form the foundation for the rest of your life in your 20s. It’s almost as if having a range of limited options would be easier.”"

Released

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"Born empty handed,
Die empty handed,
I witnessed life at it's fullest,
Empty handed."
-Marlo Morgan (author of Mutant Message Down Under)

California Foster Care

via Witness LA

On any given day, 80,000 youngsters are in the state's care. Mostly low-income and minority, these children often struggle with mental or emotional problems. Two thirds of foster kids drop out of high school. As adults, many wind up homeless or in jail.

Foster children with serious mental or emotional problems are often confined for years in institutions.

It's not uncommon for foster children to grow up anxious or depressed. Public health agencies are obligated to help these kids, but the "revolving door" nature of the treatment creates more problems. "


Please check out this 3 part audio series on California Foster Care System from the California Report. It's one of the best description of the current foster care system that I have heard. It also gives a great description of some of the work being done to bring about change & improvement to the flawed system.

Part One: Changing the Odds of Foster Care

Part Two: As Long as It Takes

Part Three: Helping the Most Troubled Foster Kids

None but Shining hours

Husband and I took a mini trip home to So-Cal to attend a family wedding (family on his side). The Groom was one of husband's cousins and the guests were primarily family members. As for the wedding itself it was beautiful and probably the nicest I've been to (other than my own of course :) ). But what struck me the most about this wedding were the people who were there-the new "family" that I had married into. I left that evening after dancing, laughing, drinking, and just having a good time thanking God for how incredibly blessed I am to be a part of such a remarkable family.

( from left: cousin, husband, sister in law, me)

played pretend between the trees

Priscilla you make my Heart swell.

June Wedding

Husband and I attended our close friends wedding this past weekend. It was a lovely wedding on a cloudy day. Congratulations Brian & Bethany!

there's one in all of us

• sometimes i feel like i don't have any friends. but then i think about all the wonderful people that have been there for me through all of it and are now just a phone call away and I feel better.
• sometimes i read the classified ads looking for hidden treasure.
• sometimes i wonder why it's so wrong to eat ice cream for breakfast.
• sometimes i forget to shave my legs for many many days.
• sometimes i am rightfully accused of never answering my phone.
• sometime all I want is to run and run thinking only about moving forward.
• sometimes I spend my entire Sundays cooking, then eating, then sleeping.
• sometimes i am really shy. sometimes i can't shut up.
• sometimes i have to stop myself from saying "i love you sooooooo much" for the 152nd time in a day to my husband. but sometimes i just cant help it.
• sometimes i can't believe this is my life. :)